What Your Feelings Are Trying to Tell You: Decoding Anxiety and Anger

May 12

Today, I am writing to you about one of my favorite “f” words: feelings.

One of my zones of genius is supporting clients to decode their feelings. This is a skill and a framework that you can learn and, when you do, you can navigate your life feeling infinitely more grounded, capable, and empowered.

So…let’s dive in. 🌊

Feelings Are Not Facts—They’re Feedback

In my personal life and professional work, I operate under this framework: Feelings are not facts—they are feedback. I view feelings not as problems to be fixed but as messages to be understood.

In my work as a therapist and spiritual life coach, I help clients decode their emotions so they can navigate life with more clarity, trust, and empowerment.

When clients initially come to work with me, two of the most common feelings they feel stuck in are anxiety and anger. When we explore them through a spiritual, somatic, and relational lens, their deeper meanings can emerge.

Understanding Anxiety as Feedback

In my opinion, anxiety is largely misunderstood and over-pathologized. From a holistic perspective, anxiety can be a meaningful signal from your body and intuition.

Anxiety could be telling you that:

You’re entering unknown territory
You’re in a season of transition or uncertainty
Your body is picking up on subtle misalignments or energetic shifts
Something in your external environment doesn’t feel emotionally or physically safe

When we have the ability to pause and listen, anxiety can becomes a form of intuitive intelligence.

Understanding Anger as Feedback

Anger is even more misunderstood than anxiety. Too often, as women especially, we are encouraged to suppress, deny, and judge ourselves for feeling it. However, anger can have incredibly important information to share with you, especially in relationship dynamics.

Anger might be pointing to any of the following:

Something is happening that is not okay with you
A boundary that has been crossed or violated
Lies are present (either you’re lying to yourself, someone else is lying to you, or both)
You’re in a season of growing into your personal power on a deeper level

Rather than fearing, suppressing, or judging yourself for experiencing anger, we can learn to listen to it with compassion and curiosity.

Working With Feelings Instead of Fighting Them

In my work with clients, we honor feelings as feedback—from your intuition, your body, and your relationships.

When we can learn to listen to our emotions instead of suppressing or over-identifying with them, they can become powerful intuitive guides that can help us:

Set clearer boundaries
Make soul-aligned decisions
Reconnect with our truth
Heal relational patterns

Ready to Decode Your Feelings?

If you're new-ish to this conversation, are seeking to work 1:1 with a skilled coach or therapist, and are curious about how to work with your emotions in a grounded, empowering, and intuitive way, this work might be for you.

I invite you to slow down and reflect:
What might shift if you started living by this affirmation: Feelings are feedback.

Want to dive deeper? Check out my private coaching offering and book a free 20-minute discovery call.

Heather Waxman

Heather Waxman is a therapist, spiritual life coach, breathwork facilitator, and author of the Your True Nature Oracle deck. She delivers a truly holistic therapeutic experience by sharing spiritual, somatic, and relational practices to help clients achieve their personal goals and come home to their true nature.